Today marks 6 months since I left Leeds behind (miss you bae) in the haze of a huge hangover after spending the entire previous night commiserating over my leaving and seeking solace in the dancefloor. I moved back in with my parents for the first time in 5 years. In semi-celebration I thought I’d share 10 things I’ve learned since moving back to Manchester. I am so incredibly grateful for my amazing family – not just my parents. The fact I’ve been able to move back to a great support system in a moment with no questions asked and no strings attached is amazing.
- It’s really really hard to fit your whole life into your childhood bedroom. I had a whole house I had to stuff into one car and one room – it was painful to have a totally ruthless clear out before packing the car up and leaving Leeds.
- You will regress into a kid again – sometimes I like this. It’s nice to not have to worry about cooking after a long day of work or paying rent etc. But sometimes I wish I had more of my independence back – I’m constantly telling my mum I want to do my own washing, but in her mum mode she always takes it and does it for me. Of course I’m grateful she does, but it would be nice for her to let a load build up for me to do myself every now and then!
- At the same time, you go back as an adult. At least in my household that’s happened. I’ve got the respect of my parents that they value my opinions on big decisions – even if they don’t affect me. They ask for my advice on things like bank accounts and how best to cook eggs or other things that 5 years ago I was calling them from halls for advice on.
- Even if like me you don’t like being alone that much, you’ll relish in your privacy. Privacy to make phone calls, privacy to just chill out and do nothing, privacy to go out without the string of parental questions that go with it…
- You will long for the days when you had your own bathroom. If you were like me and lived (basically) alone, moving home means sharing a bathroom for the first time in a while. Now I’m sharing with 3 other people, which becomes a problem when I want to have a long soak in the bath. One bathroom = one toilet – I’ll leave you to work out that grievance.
- You will get asked to tidy your room for the first time in years. I tend to have a teeny bit of mess in my room as habit – usually my desk after I do my make up – but this doesn’t go down well under my mum’s roof.
- Cue quarter-life crisis – if you’re anything like me. I moved home and felt like my 18 year old self – having to ask my dad for lifts to places, mum doing my washing etc. At the same time people my age/my friends are getting engaged and having babies on purpose – and I’m still trying to catch a break on the job hunt.
- If you have another half, things feel a bit more weird when you’re together because it’s your parents house you’re in. Luckily both my boyfriend and myself currently live with our parents, and both sets are pretty relaxed about having us to stay – but you are always aware that it’s your parents gaff rather than your own.
- Questions galore – Do you really need that? When did you buy that? Is that new? Where’s that from? What’s this? When did you learn to cook that? I thought you didn’t like onions? Mum I’ve lived away from home for five years – things change!
- You’ll appreciate your parents more than ever, even if you’re less likely to admit it while you’re at home. My parents were amazing when I decided it was time to move back home, and have been ever since. Obviously there have been a few arguments but I love them and I’m so grateful I had the option to move back home for a while whilst I sort my life out!
Have you ever moved back in with your parents? What things did you learn?